Dating after divorce in your forties really sucks! Even more so when the woman is tall like me. But You have to keep kissing a bunch of toads to find your Prince! I love the line in 'EAT PRAY LOVE" where Julia Roberts says everyone says I need a man! AND the man says "No you don't need a man you need a CHAMPION" That is what I am looking for ! And I will find him one day!

I do not mind the sharing of information or fingerprints between the agencies. But I am against it when the wrong information is put into the system.

My fiance is currently in deportation preceedings. This is his summary of events in his life that not only made him come into this country illegally but the pain and suffering that we are going through right now.

His mother filled paperwork for him to come into this country legally. Before he turned 18 as the law requiers. He lived withhis girlfriend at the time and had a daughter with her. He was a police officer who did the right thing against other corrupt officers. For the sake of his own life and that of his 2 year old daughter. They almost killed him so he fleed for his life to USA. He could not wait for the process of his mothers petition to go through. Where he has been since 1999. His mothers petition for visa came to him a year later. But he was here in the USA and could not go back to his contry to pick it up. For 10 years he had odd jobs and but did mostly mechanic work. He got arrested because someone gave him a stolen car to fix and he was not aware of this. He got a conviction for stolen property. Little things like this earned him a criminal record. But nothing big or major most offences earned him 6 months the most in jail. After a few months of being in this country he got news from his country. They told him that the mother of his daughter was threaten and they could no longer have sontact with him for their own saftey. His daughter is about 14 years old now and he has not seen or heard from her since she was 2. He tried to make a life with a woman about 7 years after coming to this country. Only to have a son with her and she accused him of physical domestic violence. Becasue she was also illegal and was trying to become legal in this country. He was convicted and did his program and completed it. She admited later on to the Judge that she lied only to teach him a lesson because he yelled to much. She even asked for a restraining order for 3 years and was living with him those three years. She threaten to call the police if he didn't do what she said throughout those three years.And even after they seperated her abuse did not stop. When I meet him he was devestated for all of this in his life. We got engaged within 2 years of living together.But could not get married because I was still married even though I had 5 years of being seperated from my husband. In the course of 1 year he lost his job. My kids where taken away from me with lies of my husband because I did not want o go back with him. BECAUSE OF SOCIAL SERVICES ALL PEOPLE AROUND THE CHILDREN MUST BE FINGERPRINTED TO SHOW IF THEY HAVE A CRIMINAL PAST AND IF THEY CAN BE AROUND THE CHILDREN. THEY DID A LIVE SCAN AND WE PAID FOR ONE TO BE DONE TO THROUGH AND INDEPENDENT PARTY. BOTH LIVE SCANS CAME BACK WITH HIS RECORD THAT ALL WAS IN ORDER. THAT HE HAD NO PENDING CASES OPENED OR ANY WARRENTS OF ANY KIND. IT ALSO ADDED HIS AKA NAMES WHICH INCLUDE HIS BROTHERS NAME AND ANOTHER NAME THAT WE DO NOT KNOW WHERE THEY GOT IT FROM. I also lost my job and by the end of the year. He was almost on his feet again when I fell in the building we had just moved into. I broke my rib and had a collapsed lung. I was in the hospital for 4 days and in bed for 3 months. He never left my side. I got pregnant the next year and developed placenta previa. I was in bed rest from 3 months of pregnancy to delivery. He never left my side. Eventually or savings ran out and had to move in with my mother ina 2 bedroom apt. That she already shared with my brother. One weekend that it was my fiances turn to have his son for the weekend. His ex gave us grife that he could not take his son anymore that weekend. after 2 years of her doing that when I was around I had it. Espacially after she treaten to do physical harm to me. My fiance called the police but but his son in my car. She went into my took the kid out without my consent. THen dragged the kid through the parking lot. When my finacee saw this he went and did a tug of war with her for his son. And she sucker punched him on his right cheek. I called 911 and told them she was being physically violent. WHEN THE POLICE ARRIVED THEY ARRESTED MY FIANCE BECAUSE OF A BENCH WARRENT HAD BEEN ISSUED ON THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE THAT HIS EX HAD LIED ON IN THE PAST. THEY TOLD HIM THAT THAT CASE WAS NOT CLOSED AND THAT THEY HAD TO TAKE HIM IN. ESPECIALLY SINCE HIS EX LIED AGAIN AND SAID MY FIANCE HAD HIT HER FIRST AND THAT SHE ONLY TRIED TO DEFEND HERSELF. WHILE IN CUSTODY ICE PUT A HOLD ON HIM UNDER A HIS NAME BUT DIFFERENT LAST NAMES AND DIFFERENT YEAR OF BIRTH. SAYING THAT IS WHAT THE FINGERPRINT CAME BACK WITH WHEN THEY SCANED THEM. THAT IT IS ONE OF HIS AKA NAMES. WHEN HE HAS NEVER GIVEN ANOTHER NAME IN HIS LIFE EXCEPT HIS BROTHERS NAME. THE COUNTY THAT ARRESTED HIM ISSUED HIM A LETTER STATING THAT HE WAS ONLY DETAINED AND NOT ARRESTED. THAT THERE WAS NO SUFFICIENT EVIDENCE TO PROCEED WITH CHARGES AND THAT THEY WERE RELEASING HIM. BUT THEY DID NOT THEY TRANSFERED HIM TO ANOTHER COUNTY THAT WAS INCHARGE OF THE BENCH WARRENT. THEN THERE HE FINISHED CLOSED THE CASE FOR NOT SHOWING UP TO COURT. HE WOULD HAVE BEEN RELEASED AFTER HE FINISHED HIS TIME THERE. BUT BECASUE OF THE WRONG INFORMATION PUT IN BY ICE HE WAS TRANCFERED TO THEIR FACILITIES.

Now he is going through deportation. Our son was born without him there with us. He was arrested on AUG 13, 2010. Our son was born on SEP 20, 2010 that same week my fiance was transfered to ICE.

In June the court barley recieved a letter from the offices in charge of the visa petition my future mother in law filed. Where it states that her petition was destroyed back in 2000. This the first time the Judge and the DA has come across this situation. So we are waiting for word on how the courts are to proceed now. We were suppose to be back in court AUG 17, 2011 but 4 weeks ago my finace slipped and fell and broke his arm. He was transfered to a maximum security jail in a county that is 2 hours away from where I live.

We have no money to pay for his bail that he got back in DEC 2010. For at that same time my brother and mother suffered a terrible car accident and have been on disability for 3 months and lost there jobs becasue of it. Now they are on unemployment and do not have enough for our bills. We need my finace out to help with our financial burdens.

I have been applying for jobs since my son was 2 months old and have not heard back from any of them.

Since he was transfered to the jail he has not been seen for the broken arm.

I do not wish what we are going through to anyone. It is a hard financial burden and emotional one too.

Someone needs to open the eyes of politicians and see what they are really doing. When they sit at a meeting and make decisions that affect the life of others. We are talking about entire families that are being seperated. Traumas that will take long to recover from if at all. Time that families will never get back. Stop pointing fingers in who to blame. Take action by helping eachother so together we can rise up from it all. We are all human beings and we have the same emotions. We have families, dreams, children, goals and want to be able to have it all. There is nothing wrong with that. What is wrong is the pain and suffering that we as humans are putting on other humans.

We have no money for a lawyer either so me and my fiance have been reading the immigration law books. I have been filling out all the immigration paperwork that a lawyer does.

Hi Olga, sorry to hear about all your legal troubles. You and your family should get the legal assistance you need for the car accident and immigration issues.

I hope your legal problems gets resolved. I hope your blog becomes a great success.