Rubin on Religion -- For God's Sake Read This One


10:49 PM  March 26, 2008

Moments ago I was tucking my six year old daughter Rory into bed, and she said, "Do you think Erin's wrist has fallen off yet?" Apparently a school-mate earlier today had a bit of an accident on a jungle gym; and according to Rory, "she broke her wrist, it's like it totally separated from her body." Instinctively, truly without even thinking about it, I said to Rory, "you should say a prayer for her."

I am proud and pleased to be a father; my best and most important work; but in some ways I probably have failed my children; in that I never have been one to insist on a religious up-bringing. My eldest daughter, Perry, is attending a Bat-Mitzvah every other week; but is not having one of her own; and to a large degree her mother and I did what many parents of different faiths do; we punted. Her mother is Catholic, and I am Jewish; and if you asked her what religion she is; Perry would say she is "both." Some would argue 'neither.' She has never been formally educated in a religious sense. Christmas and Passover every single year, but no Sunday school every week. I have now come to think that has been a mistake.


In the Jewish tradition there are sort of three levels of devotion. (By the way, this is sort of dangerous waters for me, in that I couldn't be less knowledgeable about this stuff, so any errors in this blog are very much my own). Some Jews are 'reformed,' others who are slightly more observant are called 'conservative,' and those who are very devoted are called 'orthodox.' I was raised in what I would call the 'reform-light' tradition. Interestingly enough, of my two older sisters, the eldest; is now quite orthodox. In fact my two nephews could probably be rabbi's; and any time anyone asks me a religious question about Judaism; if Eric's Spillman's phone is busy; I call my nephews right away.


Back to my bedtime advice for Rory. I have always said a prayer before bed. Every night. The contents of which I think is very private. I would resort to public prayer anytime I was on a very bumpy flight; and I think on occasion I have sat on the set at KTLA and elsewhere, praying for a particular show to be over. I have no opinion about the wide variety of religions; but I do think that people of faith; of any faith, probably are enjoying something extra in their lives. Certainly atheists and agnostics are entitled to their beliefs; but for me personally, I don't know how you can experience the birth of a child and not believe in God.


Which brings us back to soon to be asleep Rory and her friend Erin. Upon further discussion I was able to learn from Rory, 'Erin didn't really break her wrist Daddy, but she did sprang it, and that hurts." Rory and I talked more about the idea of prayer and what maybe she wanted to say to God on behalf of her friend. I left her to decide what she wanted to say before she drifted off to sleep.

I do believe the contents of one's prayers is very private. But as I go to bed tonight I will mention Rory, as I always do; and her friend Erin too.

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Hi Sam,
I have been watching The Morning New from day one.
I read your blog this morning,and I aggree with you, prayer is and should be privite.Your story was very touching and caused my eyes to water.




I have been a fan of the Morning Show 16 years. Great blog...your devotion, honesty and vulenerability as a father is sexy!!!! I wish all men (especially fathers) had a little "Sam Rubin" in them. Great job EVERY morning on KTLA!




I watch you every morning and have been hearing all of you comment about each other's blog without actually divulging what it's about. Comments like nice blog,something about grammar on Mark's blog and all those short exchanges in reference to each others blogs.

This morning, I heard Cher said "profound" and even though I'm not sure I could understand a profound blog, I got very curious.

I read your blog and I just pray that there are more parents like you. I'm sure you're not perfect, no one else is, but it's very admirable that you take the time to impart to your child your belief in Someone far more greater than anyone of us.




Totally off the blog subject, Hey Sam! Am "I" the only American Idol viewer that is about ready to quit watching the show entirely because of the monsterously annoying & highly irritating Idol audience as they continually clap & wave their hands while the contestants attempt to sing???




Hi Sam:

In my adult years I have come to the conclusion that FAITH is what really counts, not so much the denomination of your religious affiliation. So my husband and I have focused on that with ourselves and our family. We are Christian, but try to have the utmost respect for everyone and everything, no matter what their beleifs are. If God presents us with an opportunity to share our opinions and beliefs (wittness) to others, we certainly take advantage of that opportunity. As much as anything becomes less presentable when "shoved down ones throat", I also feel that is true of religion. I share my faith with those who come in contact with me certainly by verbally expressing it, but mostly by being an example of that faith in my strength, compassion, kindness and loyalty. I certainly stumble and fall more often than I care to admit, but the effort is always there. About seven years ago I had a major health scare, but through the whole crisis, I knew that no matter what happened, everything was going to work out okay...God would not abandon me or my family in our hour of need. It was such an overwhelming feeling of peace in an otherwise chaotic situation, but my God given strength became an example for my family to focus on...and seven years later, I'm here and healthy and everything is just fine. Others who knew me during that frightening time in my life still refer to that incident when they need to draw on faith and personal strength. In conclusion, the best "education" in GOD that one can share with their children (other than struggling with the explanation of what or who GOD is) is to honor GOD and your children by being the best "you" you can be. What a legacy for your children...to live by example; not to teach your children "do as I say, not as I do".




Dear Sam,
Follow your heart. Your children will do what you do and if you truly believe in practicing some kind of "faith" better you start and see if they follow. I have one daughter who could care less but I know that she has her faith to fall back on when the time comes, a death or other event. My other daughter is very prayerful in her own way.




Wow, what an outstanding blog.




Hi Sam:

You made my day. I have been reading all the KTLA blogs ever since I became aware of them and yours is the most profound one yet.

I admire the way you relate to your girls and the best advice a parent can give, in my opinion, is to PRAY without ceasing.

One cannot view the beauty of Spring, the majesty of the hills,the ocean and the awesome sight of a night sky without believing there is a greater power.

Keep up the good work with your family.

With my admiration,
Bea




Sam!! I loved this blog. I enjoy all your blogs, even the "lite" ones but this one really touched me. You're doing a great job as a Dad but we regular viewers have always known that.

I'm another one who read Cher's blog last night and now it's gone...wassup?




Sam,
Your little girl has picked up on your concern for others and that is one of the greatest laws from GOD'S word, Love your neighbor! It is confussing to children about GOD but we as parents have their little souls in our hands. These babies are our gift. It is our responsibilty to show them GOD's love and to direct them in the way GOD has told us to live. We are accoutable for these babies. And like you I believe in GOD. If there were no GOD or satan there would be NO good or evil. If there were no sin there would be no reason for law. So teach your beautiful little girls the way of the LORD Sam and keep on praying for the right way to do so.
May GOD keep blessing you all day by day.
Shar




Sam,

Today you touched my heart and brought tears to my eyes.

Thank you for your insight and sincerity - and for still being there with us every morning after all these years.

Enjoy -

Barbara




Been there, done that! Catholic - Jewish, kids believeing they are both. The problem with religious instruction is that each/all religions claim to be the ONLY one. I raised my girls to believe in God, to pray to God, and to believe that as long as religions want their members to be good people, than they are all the one. I explained that it is like a rainbow, all different colors, all going in the same direction up to the heavens. The important thing to teach your girls is to believe in the goodness, the light, to be spiritual - now that takes more time and instruction than sending them off to temple, Mass, or Sunday school. Good lucki!




Sam,

Excellent blog!!! It made me think about my own up-bringing in a household where my mother made us go to Sunday School and church, along with her, and my dad stayed home. I'm not very religious now, but I am a Christian and pray almost everyday. For me going to church as a child was part of the social activities my family and friends always did. Reflecting back now, I know the church didn't influence me all that much as to what I believe, but it did teach me about religion, and, perhaps more importantly, provided those rites of passage that helped us grow into adulthood. I rarely go to church but I still like the rituals and the opportunity to be in a place together with others sharing the experience of touching my soul. I think every child should be exposed to this.

I look forward to your blogs ... the best!!!




Sam, simply an amazing post. Your kids are lucky to have you for a dad. And we, the viewers, are lucky to
have to you watch every a.m. You, Eric and Mark feel like family to me.

p.s.: Now fix the mess at 9




Sam, I especially enjoyed your blog today. A very touching and telling account of the wonderful relationship that you share with your children. With that kind of love, they are going to be loving adults and pass that on to their own children. What better trait than that to pass on to your children, no matter what religious beliefs are praticed.




Sam this blog is excellent. We are glad that you are giving your children a strong foundation, which will keep your kids grounded no matter what. Like Zig Ziglar said, mankind is Spiritual, Mental and Physical. All of us remember to receive physical nurisment, many of us receive mental nurishment, by studying and reading good books, but fewer people receive the most important type of nurishment...namely spiritual nurishment.

Please compliment all the ladies on the morning news...LOVE the new 9:00 AM format.

God Bless,
Axel & Kathie




WOW!!

You are so insightful!! I wish that more parents took a moment to speak honestly to themselves (write in your case) about the things in life that get lost.
Morals. Values. Spirtuality.

What a lucky girl!




Psalm 24:1 "The earth belongs to the Lord and everything in it, the world, and those who live in it"--whether you believe or not.




Axel are you kidding me? You speak about "spiritual nourishment" and then mention that you love the new 9 AM format. Do you axel, do you and your wife really love it? Does it give you "spiritual nourishment" Axel, hearing these 3 ladies talk about VAGINAS at 9 AM in the morning??? Now I've heard everything!




Sam, maybe you should say a prayer for the new 9 o'clock hour too.




Hey Sam,

Great blog! I hope that you have been reading all the great feedback you have been getting. Sam, anyone that has watched the show and you for any length of time knows how much you love your girls and how you are totally and completely devoted to them. I would say to you that if you think that you have done them an injustice by "punting" then it is important to fix that if that is truly how you feel. Do some research. It sounds to me that being "Jewish" is the way you had been raised, not so much a true heart felt decision you made on your own.(Please forgive me if I am wrong!) The best thing you can do is look for the TRUTH for yourself. Read your Old Testament. there you will find clues to the TRUTH. But I would encourge you to find out for yourself, not what others tell you to believe. This way when you counsel your beloved girls, you will be giving them true heart felt knowledge and not just hearsay. I will be praying for YOU! That the TRUTH will be easy for you to see.

God Bless,
Bonnie




Sam, totally off topic, but your haircut today looks GREAT! You looked very handsome today young man.




Oh my God Sam! I just pay you a compliment and then you let them slime you! What a sport you are! That's awesome. I can't believe you took the raincoat off though! What a PRO!




Sam, I didn't know until I read your blog that you have a mixed religion marriage. All in my family have been baptised as Catholics but I seem to be the only one who has continued to go to church. I have a niece who married a Jewish man who was really not religious (somewhat like you) and she decided that she wanted continuity in their home so she converted even though she told her rabbi that she would continue her Christian tradion of Christmas. They go to the Temple and my niece was Bat Mitzfated and it was a beautiful ceremony. Think about it.




There is a saying that goes like this "no god, no peace, know God, know peace." We should have a time everyday that we give thanks to the Lord for family, health, a great country and for another day to do good things for others. We hope you will find the answers you are looking for.



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